Friendships are a bank account. And when you continue to overdraw your bank account, it is terminated. Why shouldn’t friendships? Toxic friends overdraw your friendship account over and over again, and it’s finally time to close your account.
I’ve been watching a lot of Rizzoli & Isles this week and observing the friendship between Jane Rizzoli and Maura Isles. Not only do they have a professional and mutual respectful friendship, but they are a reminder that friendship is an agreement and it’s important to keep up your end of the bargain.
A few months ago I wrote about making friends as an adult, and while I’m still working on making my brunch squad, the friendships I make and already have are being evaluated to see how the agreement of friendship is going.Read More
I feel that this title really explains everything I will be talking about today, so let’s just dive in to the interesting parts that you’re here for.
I’ve always been independent. I went 19 years of my life doing well on my own, never needing anyone, and generally getting by on my own skill, wit, and ability. To me, dating was just a luxury, because I don’t need a man.
And then I had my first real, serious relationship and it ended in flames a year ago. It was traumatic how upset I was then, because I had indulged in that luxury enough I had thought it was a necessity. A year later, I’ve come back to my senses. The part of me that I lost in that year and a half relationship have come back, and I couldn’t be happier. And it’s reminded me of why being single is kind of the best.Read More
This past weekend was one of the best I’ve had in a while because I got to see two of my favourite people. And seeing them both back-to-back really opened my eyes to friendship, relationships, and how they relate to me.
I wanted this to be funny, but then I realized that I’m adding insult if I do, so it’s kind of sad and just very emotional. I apologize in advance.
I’m a hopeless romantic and I fall hard. I fall so hard that when it ends I struggle to get over it. That’s what this is. It’s an open place where we talk about something that people don’t talk about – breaking up. We live in this culture when when a relationship ends we are told immediately to get over them and move on. You don’t need them in your life and it’s time to flit to the next relationship on your path of finding your one and only. And I think that’s what happens when people do break up, they get over the mourning as soon as possible and find someone who will make them feel awesome.
But isn’t the mourning kind of important?
As I told my mother, “I’ll write a blog post about it and then I’ll feel all better, just like everything else that happens to me.”
So that’s why I’m writing a blog post about my breakup.
After almost a year and a half with my boyfriend, we’ve decided to just be friends. No hard feelings, no anger, just two twenty-somethings who are onto the next adventure in their life. But that’s not to say it isn’t hard. Any time you lose someone who you felt a strong connection (romantic or not) it is incredibly hard on the human heart and that means getting some recovery in before going onto the next phase in life.Read More
Okay, let’s get real.
Over the last four years I have received countless emails and comments and tweets, etc. from people all over the world trying to get in with their crush through my “How to…Boy” series. And there have plenty of issues and situations that I’ve answered. But there’s one we need to really address.
What happens when you crush doesn’t like you back?
Being in unrequited love is the worst. What do you do when your affections aren’t returned? It’s a tricky situation that needs to be dealt with properly to save your feelings and not to give your crush power. That’s why I’ve come up with this handy guide on what to do when you find our your crush isn’t crushing on you back. This guide will show you what to do, what to say, and how to get back on the bandwagon even if your heart feels like a sushi chef just served it on a plate.
Who’s ready?Read More
For the past few years I have been giving love/dating advice to girls all around the world. In that time, I have gone simply off of what I knew from movies and what my own gut instinct told me. I thought I knew everything about relationships, but I don’t.
I’ve been in a relationship for about a month now (my anniversary’s on Saturday whoop!) and it’s taught me a lot about something I thought I knew a lot about. I didn’t expect for my relationship to teach me so much about human interaction. But it has.
We expect that movies and books are accurate depictions of how humans interact, and if our lives do not reflect those stories then we are not living the correct human lifestyle. Wrong! My relationship varies several different ways from how movies depict the typical college romance, but it doesn’t feel wrong, or that I’m not living to my potential. Everything feels right, and I don’t want to change it.Read More
I am a terrible flirt.
There comes a time in everyone’s life where they need to pull the flirt out of their back pocket. This week I’ve had to do that and let me tell you, I should have exercised my flirt much more in the last 19 years. Because my game is pretty weak, and it needs some fine tuning.
Flirting is this weird thing that humans do to attract each other. Few other species do it (theirs is more physical than ours) and it means that flirting is truly a dance of trying to figure out the person while making them think you’re attractive. It’s such a weird concept. But unfortunately it’s something that we all need to do to create a relationship.
I’ve given this blog post a lot of thought. I try to relate the blog to my life, but unfortunately my flirting skills are way too weak to give any advice. So, I thought I would do something I can do: a guide to figuring out how to flirt.
Morgan’s Rules to Discovering Flirting
PLAY OFF OF THEM
Here’s the cool thing about flirting, there’s someone to play off of! If both of you are interested you can work off how they flirt with you. People flirt how they like to be flirted with usually, so if they are using lots of suggestive flirting, they probably like suggestive flirting. If they flirt shyly, they probably prefer shy flirting. Take the flirting you’re getting back and incorporate it into your own flirting.Read More
Happy Inappropriate Wednesday!
If you don’t know what Inappropriate Wednesday is,here’s a quick synopsis: It all started about two weeks ago with KatySueSays and it’s moved onto a bunch of my other friends, and it is basically where we spend our Wednesday (otherwise known as Hump Day) telling each other pick up lines and graphically describing how attractive some people are and other ‘inappropriate’ jokes. It’s just a fun day.
Anyway, I thought I’d celebrate Inappropriate Wednesday with all of you with a subject that is particularly close to my heart: being single.
The other day I was sitting with my friend Tiffany talking about how we didn’t need to be in relationships. Her reason was that she was waiting until she was 18. Mine was that I’ve perfected the art of being single and don’t want to have to start again from scratch.
Being single, I feel like it has a negative connotation. Like you’re not pretty or good enough to be liked by someone else. But I don’t think that’s true. It’s easy to be single and just not want to be in a relationship. Unfortunately, it is those people who think that they’re single because they are unwanted who give us a bad name.
We all know those people who are constantly in relationships, and I believe half the reason they have this particular ‘infliction’ is that they don’t know how to be successfully single. There are a few steps of being single that make it possibly even better than being in relationship. Who knows?
Anyway, below are my steps to being single that just make it a lot of fun and make me happy to be single (plus, you can comment on attractive people, which is not recommended in a relationship).