I’ve been watching a lot of Rizzoli & Isles this week and observing the friendship between Jane Rizzoli and Maura Isles. Not only do they have a professional and mutual respectful friendship, but they are a reminder that friendship is an agreement and it’s important to keep up your end of the bargain.
A few months ago I wrote about making friends as an adult, and while I’m still working on making my brunch squad, the friendships I make and already have are being evaluated to see how the agreement of friendship is going.Read More
I feel that this title really explains everything I will be talking about today, so let’s just dive in to the interesting parts that you’re here for.
I’ve always been independent. I went 19 years of my life doing well on my own, never needing anyone, and generally getting by on my own skill, wit, and ability. To me, dating was just a luxury, because I don’t need a man.
And then I had my first real, serious relationship and it ended in flames a year ago. It was traumatic how upset I was then, because I had indulged in that luxury enough I had thought it was a necessity. A year later, I’ve come back to my senses. The part of me that I lost in that year and a half relationship have come back, and I couldn’t be happier. And it’s reminded me of why being single is kind of the best.Read More
This past weekend was one of the best I’ve had in a while because I got to see two of my favourite people. And seeing them both back-to-back really opened my eyes to friendship, relationships, and how they relate to me.
I wanted this to be funny, but then I realized that I’m adding insult if I do, so it’s kind of sad and just very emotional. I apologize in advance.
I’m a hopeless romantic and I fall hard. I fall so hard that when it ends I struggle to get over it. That’s what this is. It’s an open place where we talk about something that people don’t talk about – breaking up. We live in this culture when when a relationship ends we are told immediately to get over them and move on. You don’t need them in your life and it’s time to flit to the next relationship on your path of finding your one and only. And I think that’s what happens when people do break up, they get over the mourning as soon as possible and find someone who will make them feel awesome.
As I told my mother, “I’ll write a blog post about it and then I’ll feel all better, just like everything else that happens to me.”
So that’s why I’m writing a blog post about my breakup.
After almost a year and a half with my boyfriend, we’ve decided to just be friends. No hard feelings, no anger, just two twenty-somethings who are onto the next adventure in their life. But that’s not to say it isn’t hard. Any time you lose someone who you felt a strong connection (romantic or not) it is incredibly hard on the human heart and that means getting some recovery in before going onto the next phase in life.Read More