The 10 Commandments of Adult Friendship

I’ve been watching a lot of Rizzoli & Isles this week and observing the friendship between Jane Rizzoli and Maura Isles. Not only do they have a professional and mutual respectful friendship, but they are a reminder that friendship is an agreement and it’s important to keep up your end of the bargain.

ten commandments of adult friendship

A few months ago I wrote about making friends as an adult, and while I’m still working on making my brunch squad, the friendships I make and already have are being evaluated to see how the agreement of friendship is going.Read More

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What It's Like to Be the High Maintenance Friend

We all have that one friend, the friend who is just a little bit more than a casual hangout 90% of the time. It doesn’t what you’re doing, they go that extra mile to make sure it’s more complicated/fancy/special than it was.

I am that friend. I am 100% the high maintenance friend.


When you’re the high maintenance friend, it’s not about causing inconvenience. You just expect a certain standard of things. And here they are.Read More

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The Best Friend

You know from my last post that I have moved quite a bit in my life. And because of that I’ve never really had a best friend. Until now.

I’ve always thought of best friends as something of a luxury. I never had one, but I always saw them on television shows. They were the people you told your secrets and worries to. They were the people who if someone asked you, “Who is your best friend?” you automatically said their name. They were the people that, in your weakest moment, they had your back. And that was a luxury to me.

But recently I’ve received the benefit of getting a best friend. It happened kind of strangely. I met my best friend at the end of my freshmen year of high school. I’d known her slightly (although we’d never talked) but we didn’t really start becoming acquaintances until 6th period Concert Choir.

From there on, we fit into friendship quite easily. That summer we hung out once or twice. And during the school year it became even more of a close friendship. We had two classes together in the first semester, but during second semester we had five classes together. And trust me, it’s hard being angry at your friend when you have five classes together.

We were just good friends at those points though. It would take until the end of the school year until I could firmly say she was my best friend. I could tell her my embarrassing secrets, be my absolutely goofiest, and cry without being ashamed in front of her. And she calls me her best friend. That’s a moment that I hold dear.

Best friends are something that I’ve never taken for granted. I know that a friendship status can change in the blink of an eye. If Facebook had a ‘Friendship Status’ category on a profile, your entire News Feed would be filled with the change of friendships.

I love my best friend and the time I get to spend with her. If you have a best friend, let them know how much they mean to you. If you don’t have a best friend, don’t worry. You don’t need one. And on that note, I feel like I should say that although I have a best friend, I don’t believe it should be as exclusive as that. I have a best friend, yes, but I also have tons of people who I consider as best friends, who aren’t quite as individual as a best friend, but they each have qualities I’d want in a best friend.

Thank you for reading! And if you are my best friend (you know who you are) thanks for being so great. I’d be sad without you.

Keep on reading. You are a great audience!

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The Ups & Downs of Frenemies

Okay, so I’m sure almost everyone in the world has a frenemy. If you don’t now what a frenemy is, let me educate you.

Frenemy noun

Someone with whom you get along with 50% of the time and hate 50% of the time. You also can’t stand this person but also love to be around them. Someone with whom your feelings go up and down with.

You have now been educated.

Anyway, frenemies are something that, unfortunatley, are a huge part of life. For a lot of people, you will have plenty of people who you call frenemies. For others, you might only have one or two. It’s a fact of life.

So, how do we know they are our frenemy? Is there any way to check? Of course there is. I’ve composed a list.

Ways to Know You Have a Frenemy:

  1. Some days you enjoy their presence while others you try to avoid them
  2. You want to kill them because they annoy you so much and then you want to hug them because they are so funny
  3. People are confused whenever you say “I hate (insert name here)” or “I love (same name here)”
  4. You just sort of know 🙂

These are definitely ways to know. If a person fits any of these descriptions…Congratulations, you have a frenemy!

“You have a frenemy, you have a frenemy” (It sounds like “You’ve Got a Friend in Me” from Toy Story)

And the ups & downs? The ups are that you have a friend with whom can make you laugh and be happy. The downs are that you have a very annoying friend that makes you want to tear out your hair. Good luck with that one. You can’t tear hair out of your head.

So, do you have a frenemy? Post in the comments about your realizations and subscribe for more entertaining times with talks about frenemies, school, and basic, old school teenager-ism 🙂

Have fun with your frenemies,