“It’s not about how we live our lives to make bad things not happen. It’s about, as we get older, taking the bad events and making better decisions on how we handle them.”
See that quote? That quote is by far one of my favourite things I have ever been told. And today we’re going to talk about it.
Last week I went out with my boyfriend for his birthday with his mother and some of her coworkers. The table conversation had turned onto breakups and I told a person at the table about an issue I’d had in my love life over the summer. And he responded with that quote. And, by George, I was floored by how insightful he was.Read More
This weekend I sat in a room with several hundreds of kids under the age of 18 who were some of the best and brightest in the country. They had traveled abroad, had impressive GPAs, were leaders in their schools and communities, and were semifinalists for the same scholarship as me. That’s right, I’m included in these students. Go me!
As I was sitting with these other students, feeling overwhelmed by the amount of accomplishments being thrown in my face, I was thinking about how if I win this scholarship I will be around these people for at least the next four years of my life. But do I really want that?
Knowing what I want in my life is sometimes really difficult for me. I moved around a lot as a kid, and I was shy, so my life motto was just to take what I was given and not throw a fit. For example, I spent middle school with a group of misfits with whom I was really uncomfortable being around because I didn’t know what else to do. Eventually I made new friends and sort of eased out of the old group, but it took me THREE YEARS! Knowing what I want, and how to get it, is tough.
If I win this scholarship I will be a leader. I will take part in lots of conferences and retreats and global education projects, etc. It’s one of those big deals that means I can attend university for free and get to do one of my favorite things in the world, serve. However, am I willing to give up some of what I want to do such an intensive service? I had a sit down with myself and here’s what the conversation entailed.
When you are looking for universities to attend, people always tell you to ‘look for people that look like you’. And that’s important. When I look at universities, I want to make sure I’m not a pasty white girl in chunky sweaters sitting with a thousand tan kids wearing booty shorts. If you’re going to go to school somewhere, you want it to be somewhere where you know you’ll most likely fit in.
Today I went to a university preview day. And, even though I usually hate the idea of basically barging in on university students, it was pretty fun. And I was able to sit in my very first university class, which I absolutely loved. First off, you have to know I want to study Communications with an emphasis on Journalism and Media. That’s just what I love doing in life and how I’m going to spend it until the day I die. The class I attended was a Public & the Media class, which was all about how media affects ourselves and how we are so dependent on media with journalism and such. And it was a perfect class for me. If I were a university student, I definitely would have raised my hand and added to the discussion, because it was right up my alley. It literally was the perfect class for me.
Ever since we were little kids we’ve been learning. Whether it was from our parents or those silly little cartoons we always watched, they were there to teach us lessons. But there are some lessons that they can’t teach you, but you can only learn from experiencing them.
Lessons like those, to be it quite bluntly, suck. You have no way of knowing what to expect or how to deal with it. You just have it stick it out and hope you do it right. And trust me, no matter how many of these situations you get it, there are always plenty more to come.
As a teenager, I’ve only experienced a few on the road to life. Compared to people who are fifty or sixty, my problems are but a blip on their screen. And that’s probably why they can’t remember them. They’ve had so many other problems they’ve had to deal with themselves.
And no matter what it is, whether it be friend problems or even personal issues, you have to learn these lessons yourself, because they will pop back up again and you won’t know what to do if you don’t do them yourselves. My only words of advice?
Stay true to yourself
Keep a strong face and a steel grip on reality
Be the better person
If you follow those, not only will you learn your life lesson, but you’ll also be a stronger person will the less amount of pain. And that’s what we’re going for, is it not?
Keep on staying strong. I know it’s hard but I believe in you.