What I Learned After a Year of Being Single

I feel that this title really explains everything I will be talking about today, so let’s just dive in to the interesting parts that you’re here for.

I’ve always been independent. I went 19 years of my life doing well on my own, never needing anyone, and generally getting by on my own skill, wit, and ability. To me, dating was just a luxury, because I don’t need a man.

What I learned being single

And then I had my first real, serious relationship and it ended in flames a year ago. It was traumatic how upset I was then, because I had indulged in that luxury enough I had thought it was a necessity. A year later, I’ve come back to my senses. The part of me that I lost in that year and a half relationship have come back, and I couldn’t be happier. And it’s reminded me of why being single is kind of the best.Read More

Just Some Words on Breakups and Relationships

I wanted this to be funny, but then I realized that I’m adding insult if I do, so it’s kind of sad and just very emotional. I apologize in advance.

I’m a hopeless romantic and I fall hard. I fall so hard that when it ends I struggle to get over it. That’s what this is. It’s an open place where we talk about something that people don’t talk about – breaking up. We live in this culture when when a relationship ends we are told immediately to get over them and move on. You don’t need them in your life and it’s time to flit to the next relationship on your path of finding your one and only. And I think that’s what happens when people do break up, they get over the mourning as soon as possible and find someone who will make them feel awesome.

But isn’t the mourning kind of important?

This is very true and shows us that there is so much more going on, than we recognize or acknowledge :( ! Missing my Bestfriend :( It mattered to me , time doesn't matter ... Fell hard , fell fast and hurts like hell. TS: Read More

How to Deal With a Breakup

As I told my mother, “I’ll write a blog post about it and then I’ll feel all better, just like everything else that happens to me.”

So that’s why I’m writing a blog post about my breakup.

After almost a year and a half with my boyfriend, we’ve decided to just be friends. No hard feelings, no anger, just two twenty-somethings who are onto the next adventure in their life. But that’s not to say it isn’t hard. Any time you lose someone who you felt a strong connection (romantic or not) it is incredibly hard on the human heart and that means getting some recovery in before going onto the next phase in life.Read More

What To Do When Your Crush Doesn't Like You Back

Okay, let’s get real.

Over the last four years I have received countless emails and comments and tweets, etc. from people all over the world trying to get in with their crush through my “How to…Boy” series. And there have plenty of issues and situations that I’ve answered. But there’s one we need to really address.

What happens when you crush doesn’t like you back?

Being in unrequited love is the worst. What do you do when your affections aren’t returned? It’s a tricky situation that needs to be dealt with properly to save your feelings and not to give your crush power. That’s why I’ve come up with this handy guide on what to do when you find our your crush isn’t crushing on you back. This guide will show you what to do, what to say, and how to get back on the bandwagon even if your heart feels like a sushi chef just served it on a plate.

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How to Keep a Boy (From a Semi-Expert)

Well, I kind of lied when I said “How to Tell if a Boy Likes You (And Other Real Boy Advice)” was the last part of my “How to…Boy” series. But I also didn’t expect to get in a relationship, so you’ll have to forgive me.

I’m reaching my three month anniversary and someone suggested I make a post about how I stay in my relationship. And why not? I have some tips and tricks up my sleeve, and I’m sure some of you are curious. Now it’s time to share!

How to Keep Your Boyfriend In Love With You
(And You In Love With Him)

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What I Didn't Know About Relationships

For the past few years I have been giving love/dating advice to girls all around the world. In that time, I have gone simply off of what I knew from movies and what my own gut instinct told me. I thought I knew everything about relationships, but I don’t.

I’ve been in a relationship for about a month now (my anniversary’s on Saturday whoop!) and it’s taught me a lot about something I thought I knew a lot about. I didn’t expect for my relationship to teach me so much about human interaction. But it has.

We expect that movies and books are accurate depictions of how humans interact, and if our lives do not reflect those stories then we are not living the correct human lifestyle. Wrong! My relationship varies several different ways from how movies depict the typical college romance, but it doesn’t feel wrong, or that I’m not living to my potential. Everything feels right, and I don’t want to change it.Read More

The Trick to Balancing Life (And Still Getting Sleep)

The first thing I was told about college life was that you had to choose between your social life, your school work, and your sleep schedule. And you can only choose two. Which do you choose?

I’ve recently had to start balancing my life. I was pretty content with doing my school work and getting eight hours of sleep. But then life happens and suddenly I had a lot more things on my schedule and I had to balance them to make all of it work. And this past week I’ve truly learned the lesson of balance.

It’s hard to dedicate time and energy towards everything that deserves your time and energy. And so you have to prioritize and schedule everything to make it work. I gave this all a lot of thought this morning (eating eggs while cuddling my guinea really helps with the whole “contemplate life” thing) and here is my list of aspects of life that deserve life and energy and how to balance it all.

Morgan Balances Her Life
(But Still Can’t Finish Desperate Housewives)

School work

We all know that school work is incredibly important as a student. And in university you’re basically paying to do it! This is a priority in the highest and deserves a lot of your time and energy. I find the best way to make sure that I am giving the right amount to my school work is to make a schedule of when my work is due and when I want to actually do the assignment. For my Econ quizzes due Tuesday and Thursday I do them Monday and Wednesday. For my journalism projects due on Sunday I make sure to have a little bit of the project done each day to keep the work from piling up. Having that schedule makes sure that I know what I’m doing, and I’m getting things done each day, and it doesn’t all pile up and keep me from other aspects of my life.Read More

The Dating Game

Contrary to popular belief, my knowledge in the male gender is about…zero. I don’t have a boyfriend, go on dates, etc. And it’s all because I’m perfectly happy not participating in The Dating Game.

Don’t get me wrong, I think guys are great. I could go on for hours about Logan Lerman and Dylan O’Brien, but I won’t because it will most likely bore you. But I don’t think I need a boyfriend to be complete in life. It’s all about being confident in your own person and not needing some guy to give you that confidence.

Yes.

People always ask me, “Why are you single?” and I’ve probably replied about a million times that I’d rather eat a good piece of chocolate and drink some tea than find some guy who I’m just settling for. It’s completely fine to have high standards because isn’t it more worth it to have someone who you know will make you happy than to just grab the first thing with a willy?

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The Art of Being Single

Happy Inappropriate Wednesday!

If you don’t know what Inappropriate Wednesday is,here’s a quick synopsis: It all started about two weeks ago with KatySueSays and it’s moved onto a bunch of my other friends, and it is basically where we spend our Wednesday (otherwise known as Hump Day) telling each other pick up lines and graphically describing how attractive some people are and other ‘inappropriate’ jokes. It’s just a fun day.

Anyway, I thought I’d celebrate Inappropriate Wednesday with all of you with a subject that is particularly close to my heart: being single.

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The other day I was sitting with my friend Tiffany talking about how we didn’t need to be in relationships. Her reason was that she was waiting until she was 18. Mine was that I’ve perfected the art of being single and don’t want to have to start again from scratch.

Being single, I feel like it has a negative connotation. Like you’re not pretty or good enough to be liked by someone else. But I don’t think that’s true. It’s easy to be single and just not want to be in a relationship. Unfortunately, it is those people who think that they’re single because they are unwanted who give us a bad name.

We all know those people who are constantly in relationships, and I believe half the reason they have this particular ‘infliction’ is that they don’t know how to be successfully single. There are a few steps of being single that make it possibly even better than being in relationship. Who knows?

Anyway, below are my steps to being single that just make it a lot of fun and make me happy to be single (plus, you can comment on attractive people, which is not recommended in a relationship).

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Can I Have Your Number?

WHOA! What a crazy week!

You know that week that never ends up how you expected it to? That was my week. Why?

There were a LOT of people asking for my number.

And each time someone asked me for my number (for a multitude of reasons. Not all romantically.) it made me think of how there are so many ways to ask for someone’s number.

A big demographic on this here blog is teenage girls, which makes sense considering a teenage girl is writing it. And I am constantly asked for dating advice and how to talk to a boy and all of that. So, for those readers, here is how you are going to get his number.

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APPROACH 1: THE COMPLIMENT

This one works best if you are asking in a romantic way. Otherwise people might get the wrong idea. The trick for this approach is to have some insight on this person (something they might be proud of/be part of) and incorporate it into your asking.

“So, does Mr. All-State Champ have a phone number?”

APPROACH 2: KEEPING IT STRICTLY BUSINESS

This approach can be used in both romantic and friendly circumstances. I’ve only seen it used in friendly circumstances, but try what you want. The idea is to make the fact you are asking for their number is only for business reasons, not for your more ulterior motives.

“You’re one of the chairmen for the dance, right? Can I have your number if I have any questions?”

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