Marge308

The Question:

Morgan & Ella,

There is a guy that goes to the same school as me. I’m 17 and he’s 16. He stared and smiled at me for a couple of months last school year. When I would catch him looking at me he wouldn’t look away but he would just keep staring and smiling. After observing his behaviour for some time I found out he’s a quiet type of a guy. After months of staring at me he started ignoring me.
However, one day I saw him in the hall of our school and he surprisingly looked at me in a much different way he’s done before: his look was inocent, gentle, sweet and he looked like he’s suffering. My heart melted right there. At that moment I decided I’ll talk to him one day. And so I did a week after: I approached him and asked if the steak was good (we had a steak for lunch in the canteen). He didn’t even look at me and nervously replied: “It was great”. Right after he walked away quickly. However, a friend of his started laughing and teasing the guy.
After that day nothing changed except the teasing part. I approached the guy a couple more times but we still weren’t talking like friends.
On the last day of school in the afternoon the guy was sitting with his friends on a bench at the bus station. Me and my friend sat right next to him. I could see he was nervous. After I left (I left earlier than others) my friend called me on the phone and told me what those guys were talking when I was not there. Apparently the guy’s friends were saying some bad things about me and laughing about it. And the guy said he won’t talk to me because then I won’t leave him alone for sure.
After that day we haven’t seen each other until September. In September the guy tried to get my attention by looking at me again but not as obvious as in the last school year.
One Saturday I saw him at a party and I didn’t do much about it. However, he walked past me about three times and touched me slightly.
From time to time I can still notice his nervousness e.g. blushing and running his hands through his hair while looking down.
A couple of days ago I approached him one more time and he smiled a lot. Then one day I was walking outside the school and I saw him in a classroom having a lesson and he waved at me. Next thing I was sitting with my friend on a bench and the guy and his friend approached me for the first time. They gave me a number, I called it, nothing happened and then they left. I still don’t understand why they did this.
The guy’s friend told me the guy is scared of me and he doesn’t want a relationship (this friend is very unreliable, he tends to make a lot of things up). Then he asked me what do I want from the guy and I told him that the guy started this whole thing with his staring and the guy’s friend looked very surprised because he thought the contrary this whole time.
Another friend of his told me the guy is not a talkative person. However, he told her thai I like him.
From what his friends are saying I assume he’s been telling them I stare at him and approach him because I like him so much that I’m desperate (I do kind of like him but I did all of this because he was staring at ME all the time).

My question is: What do you think about the situation? Does this guy actually like me? I want we could talk like friends so what should I do?

Marge308

The Advice:

Marge308,

HE TOTALLY LIKES YOU! Like I don’t even have to be there in person to say that he definitely likes you!

My advice would just to go up to him and invite him on a friend date, as I like to call them. Invite him for coffee or lunch or breakfast or whatever. He’s definitely proven that he has a thing for you, and if you want to have any sort of relationship with him, I would suggest making a move. Pull him over by himself, say, “Listen, would you maybe like to grab lunch on Saturday?” and just make it seem like you want to be friendly. It’s scary, but it should turn out for the best!

Morgan
Marge308,
Wow!! Looks like you might have a secret admirer. It seems as though you want to be his friend  but he seems shy, closed off to girls maybe. It might be the fact that your older than him that scares him a bit if hes not a big ‘girl talker’ as such. If you want to be his friend I suggest saying something along the lines of this, 
Hey, I noticed you looking over at me a few times this past year. You seem like a really great person and i would like to get to know you better. I understand your shy, but I would really like to be friends with you.
After saying that see what he says back, but if that seems a bit to scary I would just keep approaching him but saying things that start a conversation, you could ask him what he is doing after school or what he is doing on the weekend, even something as simple as “are you at my bus stop this afternoon” is a great conversation starter!!
Ella
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5 thoughts on “Marge308

  1. Anonymous says:

    I thank you both for your advice 🙂

    I try really hard to look as friendly as possible when I’m around him. I even talk to his close friends.
    In June before the summer break I asked him If he’s going to be around and his answer was literally just: “No”.
    Like he functions normally from afar but when we get close he just plain ignores me.
    Today I saw him taking a picture of me secretly (wtf) and after some time he was in the hall next to me and he completly ignored me.

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  2. Marge says:

    I thank you both for your advice 🙂

    I try really hard to look as friendly as possible when I’m around him. I even talk to his close friends.
    In June before the summer break I asked him If he’s going to be around and his answer was literally just: “No”.
    Like he functions normally from afar but when we get close he just plain ignores me.
    Today I saw him taking a picture of me secretly (wtf) and after some time he was in the hall next to me and he completly ignored me.

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  3. Marge says:

    So this guy found out I like him (my friend told him through facebook chat) but he still won’t make a move. He doesn’t seem nervous around me anymore. Should I move on 😮 ?

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    • Morgan says:

      Talk to him. See how that goes.

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      • Marge says:

        I talked to him on facebook and he won’t admit he stared at me. In fact he just straight up asked me why do I stare at him. He didn’t even bother to keep the conversation going and then I just stopped texting him. I haven’t asked him if he likes me yet.

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