Morgan & Ella,
There is a guy that goes to the same school as me. I’m 17 and he’s 16. He stared and smiled at me for a couple of months last school year. When I would catch him looking at me he wouldn’t look away but he would just keep staring and smiling. After observing his behaviour for some time I found out he’s a quiet type of a guy. After months of staring at me he started ignoring me.
However, one day I saw him in the hall of our school and he surprisingly looked at me in a much different way he’s done before: his look was inocent, gentle, sweet and he looked like he’s suffering. My heart melted right there. At that moment I decided I’ll talk to him one day. And so I did a week after: I approached him and asked if the steak was good (we had a steak for lunch in the canteen). He didn’t even look at me and nervously replied: “It was great”. Right after he walked away quickly. However, a friend of his started laughing and teasing the guy.
After that day nothing changed except the teasing part. I approached the guy a couple more times but we still weren’t talking like friends.
On the last day of school in the afternoon the guy was sitting with his friends on a bench at the bus station. Me and my friend sat right next to him. I could see he was nervous. After I left (I left earlier than others) my friend called me on the phone and told me what those guys were talking when I was not there. Apparently the guy’s friends were saying some bad things about me and laughing about it. And the guy said he won’t talk to me because then I won’t leave him alone for sure.
After that day we haven’t seen each other until September. In September the guy tried to get my attention by looking at me again but not as obvious as in the last school year.
One Saturday I saw him at a party and I didn’t do much about it. However, he walked past me about three times and touched me slightly.
From time to time I can still notice his nervousness e.g. blushing and running his hands through his hair while looking down.
A couple of days ago I approached him one more time and he smiled a lot. Then one day I was walking outside the school and I saw him in a classroom having a lesson and he waved at me. Next thing I was sitting with my friend on a bench and the guy and his friend approached me for the first time. They gave me a number, I called it, nothing happened and then they left. I still don’t understand why they did this.
The guy’s friend told me the guy is scared of me and he doesn’t want a relationship (this friend is very unreliable, he tends to make a lot of things up). Then he asked me what do I want from the guy and I told him that the guy started this whole thing with his staring and the guy’s friend looked very surprised because he thought the contrary this whole time.
Another friend of his told me the guy is not a talkative person. However, he told her thai I like him.
From what his friends are saying I assume he’s been telling them I stare at him and approach him because I like him so much that I’m desperate (I do kind of like him but I did all of this because he was staring at ME all the time).
My question is: What do you think about the situation? Does this guy actually like me? I want we could talk like friends so what should I do?
HE TOTALLY LIKES YOU! Like I don’t even have to be there in person to say that he definitely likes you!
My advice would just to go up to him and invite him on a friend date, as I like to call them. Invite him for coffee or lunch or breakfast or whatever. He’s definitely proven that he has a thing for you, and if you want to have any sort of relationship with him, I would suggest making a move. Pull him over by himself, say, “Listen, would you maybe like to grab lunch on Saturday?” and just make it seem like you want to be friendly. It’s scary, but it should turn out for the best!