Okay, let’s get real.
Over the last four years I have received countless emails and comments and tweets, etc. from people all over the world trying to get in with their crush through my “How to…Boy” series. And there have plenty of issues and situations that I’ve answered. But there’s one we need to really address.
What happens when you crush doesn’t like you back?
Being in unrequited love is the worst. What do you do when your affections aren’t returned? It’s a tricky situation that needs to be dealt with properly to save your feelings and not to give your crush power. That’s why I’ve come up with this handy guide on what to do when you find our your crush isn’t crushing on you back. This guide will show you what to do, what to say, and how to get back on the bandwagon even if your heart feels like a sushi chef just served it on a plate.
The All-in-One Guide of How to Get Over Your Crush
1. Limit contact
Part of the great part about crushes is that it’s easy to initiate conversation from face-to-face, social media, and all the in-between. But what happens after you’ve initiated all this communication and they don’t like you back? Easy, cut communication in a way that isn’t rude, but doesn’t allow them to continue talking to you. If they come up to and start talking, make small talk before giving yourself an excuse to leave. If they message you, tell them you’re busy. By limiting contact, you make it easier to not think about them, making moving on a lot easier.
2. Focus on yourself
Yes, I know we are all self-involved, but when it comes to getting over your crush, become more self-involved. Go on “me” dates. Try new hobbies. Go shopping. Invite friends over for a sleepover and tell them you need a pick-me-up. Get focused on yourself – or your friends – and see how quickly your crush seems like nothing. And you’ll see that they are missing out because you’re fantastic and they should have realized that.
3. Talk about it
Find someone who you trust and talk to them about it. Talking about it is the best therapy. And sometimes just getting out how hurt you feel is how you’re going to get over it. Talking about the silly things you did to get them to notice you, or how you waited for their texts all day, all of that is therapeutic and is going to help get you over them.
4. Focus on someone else
The best way to get over a crush is to get a new crush. Find someone else you like and go there. There are so many fish in the sea and limiting yourself because of one unrequited crush is serious dating failure. If you’re still stuck on someone, see who else is out there. Sometimes the one is the one you don’t see. Isn’t that what every Disney Channel movie has taught us? Try the field, it may be the best thing you do.
Still struggling with your crush? Time heals all wounds and you are no different. Try repeating these steps and with time you will get over your crush and your life will go on.
Stay classy, Internet,
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