Everyday Enthusiasm Day 10: Welcome Wednesdays
Hola dear Enthusiasts! Today on Welcome Wednesday, we are going to welcome a new blogger buddy of mine, Alanna from Put On Your Lipstickk! When Alanna approached me months ago about working together, I was so excited to have her write for the blog! We’ve been talking and it’s great to have someone with a bit older voice on the blog, as we all know I’m kind of growing out of my teenage years. I hope you all enjoy what Alanna has to say as much as I do! So, without further ado, let’s say a big Welcome Wednesday to Alanna!
You can view my post on Alanna’s blog here.
I am so very excited to be writing my FIRST GUEST POST!! Not only is it my first guest post, but I have also gotten the wonderful opportunity to work with Morgan, the teenage enthusiast, who is so very inspirational and enlightening at such a young age. When I first read her blog I thought I was reading a twenty something’s blog who had just kept the blog name from when she was a teenager. When I found out she was only 19, I was surprised and so proud for her even though we hadn’t yet spoken.
She and I are very similar in what we are trying to accomplish with our blogs, and I see a lot of myself in her even at my ripe old age of 24. Now, I have a full time job, and I’m working on my graduate program, but I (most of the time) still feel like that carefree (but serious when necessary) 19 year old I see in Morgan. I want to thank Morgan so much for doing this with me, and I hope she wants to do it again very soon!! You rock, Morgan! Keep it up
Today I want to talk about feeling in between. Some of you may be thinking, “What is she talking about?” But I’m willing to guess that the people who have been in this limbo (shall I say) of in between knew exactly what I meant as soon as they read it.
Let me try and define it:
-In between- an area of life (mentally and physically, I suppose) where you haven’t quite grown into or started a part of life that almost everyone you know has, but you’ve also outgrown some of your old ways.
I think that in some way everyone can relate to this to some degree in many, many different situations.
Currently, I am in between. I also am struggling with the fact that I really don’t want to be in between while trying to accept the fact that I am, well, in between (Should I say in between one more time?). The current in between situation I am talking about is when a person reaches that milestone of settling down and starting a family vs. going out to bars, dancing your ass off, and feeling like total and complete you know what the next day.
Now, logically, I am very well aware that I am not the only one in between these two stages in life, but my question is, “Where is everyone else who is going through what I’m going through right now?”
Let me tell you how things are in my world at the moment. First of all, you should know that I’m 24, a 6th grade teacher and school counselor, and I’m currently working on my first graduate degree. Needless to say, I’m very busy! While I love my life (and I mean absolutely love my life!) I cant help but feel this sense of unknowing… Unknowing about what will happen next, but at the same time I feel very settled in my career. I’m in such a strange place where some things are so set in stone, and others could not be farther from a mystery of what will happen next. So I’d like to share with you this little peek into my world because I imagine there are so many people in this same place.
On one hand I have my married friends. These are probably some of the most wonderful people in my life. However, the only time I get to see them is when their husbands are busy (I love you married friends. I know this is how it’s supposed to be. I’m just expressing myself so don’t get upset and think I hate you. I promise I don’t, and I love that you’re happy and married and in love, but…..). Also, these are the people who tell me how wonderful I am, and how it’s just not my time. My time is coming. You know what? I have started resenting that statement. Saying to myself (and sometimes to these friends), Screw that. I’m the oldest person I know who doesn’t even have a loving mature relationship. This just leads me to be frustrated when they tell me how wonderful I am.
I’m 24, what the hell am I supposed to be doing?
On the other hand also have the married friends (actually I would consider these more of acquaintances) who ask me when I’m going to settle down and get married and start a family. This is the worst possible question you can ask a single girl. Hey y’all!! This question is not okay. It just makes us feel sad and lonely. Which we aren’t… UNTIL YOU ASK US THIS DUMB QUESTION. Trust me, if we single ladies could materialize the love of our lives out of thin air, we would. Unfortunately, that’s not how things work. And shame on you for being so far checked out of reality that you think it’s so easy. (Can you tell that these are my least favorites?)
I’m 24, what the hell am I supposed to be doing?
Then (I guess on my third hand, haha) comes the other single ladies. Sounds like these people would be the people I could hang out with… right? Right?? Negative. My single friends are still in their “Hey lets go get obliterated on mixed drinks, make out with random guys, and drive home even though we totally shouldn’t be” mode. Don’t get me wrong I LOVE THESE GIRLS SO MUCH. If I could keep up with them I would. Sadly… nights like these end in massive hangovers that ruin the next two days of my life. You go girls. Live it up while you still can (just please promise me you will call a cab or me to come pick you up.). I’ll be home reading 🙂
I think that, because I’m 24, it’s okay to be in between. It doesn’t make me less of a person just because I don’t have a pretty ring on my finger and a stroller in the back seat of my minivan. That will happen when I find someone emotionally ready to take on the adventures of life with me. I’m not going to settle for just anyone just because I want those things. Divorce rate people!! Never settle!
It also doesn’t mean I’m a boring old lady just because I don’t want to be at the bar every weekend. I’ve learned that I actually enjoy remembering my conversations with the people I meet. Who would’ve ever guessed? I’ll drink my two drinks a few times a month, and yes, I’ll probably get out and dance and sing Spice Girls karaoke. I like to have a good time just as much as anybody, but a girl can only take so much! Plus alcohol makes you fat (Remember that girls! Beer bellies are tough to get rid of. It’s not worth it.)
Now, going back to my question. WHERE ARE ALL THE GIRLS LIKE ME? I can’t be the only one. I know I’m not the only one. I need friends who want to go get coffee, then maybe a margarita, then maybe home to take Advil to avoid a headache, and then binge on Netflix and ice cream just because we can. We have no one to answer to, but we also really don’t want to go get hammered at the nearest club.
I wrote this post because I’ve been so stumped by my current scenario, and I know there are girls like me going through this same period of uncertainty. Yes, all of those friends (the ones mentioned above) will tell you they understand, and they probably do to a certain degree. But I want someone who more than relates to me by some far off distant situation light years away from her current life. I want someone who is living it. A support system, if you will.
As I said earlier, I could not be happier with the life that I live. I am so blessed in so many ways. This feeling of in between is much more of a state of confusion than a state of unhappiness. Until I find “the one” (which is not being rushed at all!!) I will remain in between, and, you know what, that’s okay. Each and every day is a new and exciting adventure with no one to answer to but myself. Maybe I’ll go drink a glass of wine. Maybe I’ll go start a business. Maybe I’ll go to the coffee shop and actually do my homework! Who knows? That’s the beauty of in between; you don’t have to know all of the answers. No one is making sure you do.
So until you decide you’re ready to leave your state of in between, wherever that may be, enjoy every moment. You will never get this wonderfully free time of your life back.
As my grandmother always told me:
This too shall pass.
Until next time, I will put on my lipstick and be ready for life’s next great adventure.
Enthusiasts, you put on your lipstick too, and join me for my next adventure into the great questions of this thing we call life.
It’s beautiful. Enjoy it while you can.
Thanks again, Morgan! I’ve had such a blast doing this with you, and you inspire me in so many ways!
xo from Sweet Home Alabama,
Most photos were all retrieved from Instagram users from many, many different sources, and some were taken by yours truly. To all of those sources I give credit and so much appreciation for the inspiring images that continually brighten my days ❤
Thanks Alanna for sharing with us today! I hope you all enjoyed this collaboration and will check out Alanna more, because she’s pretty awesome!
This has been Welcome Wednesday, and make sure to check back tomorrow for Thought Thursday where I review stuff!
Also, gentle reminder that I am currently in LA, so patience with all bloggy related things! Love you, you little Enthusiasts!
Stay classy, Internet,
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