Let's Talk Anxiety (And Not Get Anxious About It)

One thing a lot of people don’t know about me is that I have horrible social anxiety. And not just the “I feel like being antisocial today,” but rather the “I might actually pass out if I am in public much longer” kind of anxiety.

I can’t really pinpoint the moment I realized that it wasn’t just me being nervous about people, but rather actual anxiety. I experienced my worst anxiety attack the other day and it made me realize how serious I should be taking this. So many people brush off anxiety as being a dramatized version of nerves. And after going through what I went through, I don’t want anyone else to underestimate what is going on with them.

Note: This is a sensitive topic for a lot of people, so please take this seriously.

Anxiety comes in many shapes and sizes, and you may not know that you are having an anxiety attack until it’s too late. Being aware of what is going on with your body at all times is important, which is why I have made the following lists of how to realize if you have anxiety, and ways to tackle it.

Note: I am not a doctor, so if you do have anxiety, please see your physician. The advice I give on this blog is what works for me, and you are your own individual. Please don’t do exactly what I say, but what is best for you.

Do You Have Anxiety? Let’s Find Out.

  • Do you often freak out in situations?

    If you have social anxiety like I do, the idea of being around people can completely freak you out. Shortness or breath, inability to focus on anything other than what I’m worrying about, and shakes and shivers, those are all common ways of freaking out with anxiety. It might seem ridiculous as to why it is happening (it is only a birthday party, nothing harmful) but you can’t control the feeling of doom consuming you.

  • Can you not calm down when something makes you nervous?

    If you’re an anxiety attack, it can be very difficult to calm down. Everything is coming at one time and calming down is not an option. You want to, but you physically can’t. Some variable needs to change before you can even consider relaxing. If this happens to you when you’re uncomfortable or nervous or anxious, chances are you have anxiety.

  • Do you worry about things that others would consider trivial?

    People who do not have anxiety do not understand that we can’t control what sets us off. It’s not a pick and choose situation. You can get one from too many people coming in the room (that happened to me and it was terrifying.) Anxiety can come from anything, and if you have the symptoms from what I’ve already described from something that seems trivial or ridiculous, anxiety is probably what is causing it.

Tips and Tricks for Dealing With Anxiety

  • Phone a friend

    When you are at your lowest, about to break down and cry because the anxiety is crippling you, you need a buddy. Someone to talk you off the cliff, to encourage you, to tell you that what you’re feeling will pass, to remind you to breathe deeply. Find someone who you can call or text when you feel your anxiety coming. Talking to someone who can calm you down is very helpful and sometimes just knowing that someone is there for you can help with your anxiety a lot.

  • Have a coping mechanism

    When you are in the middle of an attack, there is no up and down, left right, anything. It’s everything you fear and worry crushing down at an alarming rate towards you. Having something stored in the back of your mind that you can use to try to calm yourself down. For me, I know rubbing my left shoulder helps me. So if you ever see me rubbing my left shoulder like a maniac, it probably means I’m on the verge of an anxiety attack and I’m very uncomfortable, but I’m working on it. Rubbing my shoulder keeps me on Earth and going forward. Find your own version of rubbing your shoulder and it can be a way to cope.

  • Try a ritual to fend off anxiety

    If you know there’s a chance you’ll have bad anxiety when you go do something, having a sort of ritual to calm yourself down is soooooo helpful. I curl my hair almost everyday, and it’s not just because I like the way it looks. It relaxes me and gives me time to prepare myself for being in public. It’s 20 minutes of my day where I can take a step back, analyze the situation, reassure myself that not everyone will be judging me, and when I go out, my anxiety is a lot less pressing than usual. Without this ritual, I can’t imagine some of the attacks I would have had last year starting uni.

  • Watch videos to educate yourself

    If you aren’t already and you have anxiety, start watching Zoe Sugg’s anxiety videos. I benefit from them so much because it makes you realize that you aren’t alone. Tons of people battle anxiety every day and sometimes just knowing that there’s someone on the Internet freely speaking about it can be a lot of help. Zoe mostly talks about panic attacks, which are different than anxiety attacks (the difference), but I still find what she has to say really interesting and helpful. Here’s a blog post she wrote about her experience. I’ve found Zoe to be a big help, so I hope you do too.

If you have anxiety, or are even thinking you might, I would recommend seeing a doctor. If you aren’t comfortable seeing a doctor (as I am) reading books and articles about what to do to combat it is a good place to start to know what is going on with you. To be educated is the best way to battle this.

I hope this article has helped and educated in some form. The readers of this blog are so important to me and I know that some of you have things going on that you’re struggling to come to terms with. I wish I could help on every issue, but this is the only one that I know well enough to elaborate on. I hope it’s helped someone.

Thank you for reading. It means so much to me, I can’t even express it. Here’s to the best readers on the planet!

Stay classy, Internet,








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10 thoughts on “Let's Talk Anxiety (And Not Get Anxious About It)

    1. Picture-Bandit,

      I’m happy it’s not a waste of time to read my blog! I hope whatever you’re experiencing goes away and glad to have been some help.


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  2. Reblogged this on KatySuzie and commented:
    Hello my lovelies! I hope you are well. I know I just gave you a new post but today I received an email notifying me that my best friend in the whole world had posted on her blog. This is the article I found when I opened the email.
    Please remember, it is important to make sure that you know what is going on with your body, you only get one so it is important to take care of it the best you can. We can’t pick and choose when we get sick, when we get hurt, and especially when we have anxiety. I know that I have had bouts with anxiety and trust me it isn’t fun and it certainly doesn’t knock on the door and wait to be welcomed. Please take this seriously, this isn’t something to take lightly and I hope that if any of you feel that you may have anxiety you look into it or talk with a doctor.
    Take Care,

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  4. Love your honesty! I too deal with anxiety, and wasn’t even aware of it for years. A lot like you, I hope to use my blog as a place of inspiration for others going through similar situations. I tend to be very honest and open with my readers as well. Maybe we could collaborate on a post. If you are interested email me at putonyourlipstickk.com. I look forward to hearing more from you, and I wish you luck in your life’s adventures.

    1. Hi!

      I received your comment about wanting to collaborate and I am interested. After reading your blog and seeing how you too want to inspire your readers, I think collaborating is a fantastic idea.

      Please email me at teenenthusiasm@gmail.com so we can talk further!


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  6. Completely understand where you are coming from in every sense. Social Anxiety, which I have as well, is a hard thing to deal with and having others around you who feel the same way is helpful! Zoe has also been an incredible help for me. She’s beautiful on the outside as well on the inside. Thank you for sharing your experiences and showing other people they are not alone! 🙂

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